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To grieve and celebrate

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I grieve and celebrate I grieve the soulful woman who once stood and walked tall, graceful and strong And now celebrate the soulful eyes that sees what was never seen before I grieve the loss of those afraid to journey with me when I was well And celebrate now with those not afraid to share my difficult path I grieve for those who strive for material things and ego fantasies And celebrate those who strive for good character and a soulful heart I grieve for all the adventures that took me round this incredible earth And now celebrate the shining sun, blue sky and butterflies in my yard I grieve the freedom I felt to be totally spontaneous and gypsy like And now celebrate the sacredness and presence of every moment I grieve and celebrate

Njari

04.12.14

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Let Yourself Feel Sad Sometimes – It’s OK

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From time to time when I have to face things about my less than perfect health, it can get to me emotionally and I need to cry a lot, and I yearn to have someone who can embrace me and tell me I am safe and loved.  The one thing that is important about this is the ability to give myself permission to stop being so strong, and just allow myself to let tears flow…. it’s okay to wish that my current condition wasn’t apart of my life, or that I have lost something that is precious in life. It doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate all of the amazing things or people around me, or negate my realisation that things could be far worse. I have suffered for 5 years already, and the physical, mental, spiritual and emotional journey I have taken has been mostly in a  positive, graceful and courageous manner already.

But ..for today, I’ll be sad a little.

And tomorrow I will kick arse once more…

So it’s important that I share this message with you. We all have days where we wake up and feel a little sensitive or off? Everybody has a unique story or situation that has shaped them in their life, and it’s natural to feel emotions. Maybe it is grief, sadness, disappointment, hurt, rejection, vulnerability or fear?

But you know what?

It is truly okay. 

Everybody has days like this. We are here to explore and grow from our experience in life. As a valuable human being it is your right, and your duty, to express yourself honestly and openly. Most importantly forgive yourself.

Sometimes instead of eating food (For me a little piece of dark chocolate), writing it out (which is what I tend to do at times), or trying to think positive thoughts (which are great), I will choose to SIT with it, and really FEEL it, because it needs to get out and run it’s course from the body. It’s not healthy to not face the feelings, acknowledge them, or explore them. Emotional armouring  will make them manifest later in one way or another or be stored in your organs, and that causes more dis-ease. We often block trauma with the mind but hold emotions in the body. So the mind moves on but our bodies don’t.

So…Ride it out…..spend a day or two, to get it out of your system… express it as healthily and appropriately possible …cry, talk about it, write it, hugs someone, use EFT, cuddle the cat, exercise, squeeze your pillow, practice breathing, get a massage, or perhaps be with nature….Then when you are done, wake up the next day, with a new outlook, and start from scratch with your positive attitude again. Remember that in each life some rain must fall. Rain is necessary for growth, and goes hand in hand for nature to exist. It cleanses and renews.

YOU HAVE PERMISSION TO FEEL, IN ORDER TO HEAL

Other Links about dealing with Sadness:

Osho – spiritual view

Effective ways to deal with sadness –Health Guidance

Letting Go…

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A difficult time of my life (and recurring theme), where I was dealing with a soul lesson, led me to write the following on 22.8.95. If you ever had to learn lessons of holding onto things for fear of loss, or the opposite, too scared to get close, in fear of loss, I invite you to take some time to read, listen to the music and allow yourself to feel what you need to and then imagine filling a balloon(s) and releasing (with love) whatever it may be that you are holding on to……

Snatam Kaur

Somewhere I reach out

But I cannot feel any touch

Must I mist myself from all

Shall I break the tiresome spell?

Nolonger do I have to feel

cloistered like a solemn monk

for the time is now, the here

not the past,  so lock the door

I can speak to you sometimes

in a way so clear or muffled

A collision of my confidence

or uncertain passages of worth

Regal, proud, so sensed of all

people who sought me out

Am I holding on to many

In fear I may lose the grip?

Everything has a time, a place

things ride a path of purpose

but is this wave forever moving

or is it to lose all power?

Conflict is a curse, a feign

the message it is time to let go

for if I clasp too tight with tears

my lesson will result in release

So though I cling to some

I am struggling with a fear

knowing that there is always time

helps make my own path clear

LETTING GO, Is Hard Sometimes, But HOLDING ON, is Harder

Some of us think holding on makes us Strong, but sometimes it’s Letting GO